“Find something you love to do and you’ll never work a day in your life.”


This vastly known Harvey MacKay quote rings true for a certain group of people and I wish that I could say the same for me… I love to help people, in any capacity. I’m a do-gooder and a fixer. If you have a problem, I’ll help you fix it. Sometimes though, even though I love it, it’s certainly a lot of work.



I work full-time as a Prevention Specialist, with a non-profit organization that provides drug and alcohol prevention with students. I also still work at a soccer stadium that I’ve worked at since high school, as a (now) supervisor in the clubhouse. In the fall, I’m a junior varsity volleyball coach for a local high school. Within what’s left of my spare time, I find a few moments to write for She’s It as a Freelance Writer.


I love doing all of these things. I get to constantly stay busy, which is something that I welcome. I’m trying to help people, too which comes with it’s own set of rules. I also get to have fun, in mostly everything that I do too, which is what everything is about, right?


There’s nothing more that I love than playing jeopardy with a classroom full of students, who think they know it all, and by the end of the game, realize that they don’t actually know everything.



I love seeing that light bulb come on inside their brain, showing them that there’s more to life.



I also love working in the fast-paced environment at the stadium, where everything planned, can change instantaneously because the big cloud decided to rain on our parade. I like helping my servers when they’re overwhelmed or stuck, by making them laugh, helping them carry some drinks to customers, or just crying inside with one another until the night ends.



Coaching has definitely been one of the most rewarding experiences for me thus far. I missed this game so much when I graduated. When I was afforded the chance to help a group of girls fall in love with the game that I love so much, it was an incredible experience. I’m coaching now for the second season and getting to watch the players from last year and how much they’ve developed, and watching the newer girls, and anxiously awaiting for them to blossom and grow. It’s a feeling like no-other.



I live for the mistakes that they make. So, that we, as a team, can fix them and grow together.



As a freelance writer, I get to do something that I haven’t done for fun, in a long time. In college, I dreaded writing papers, not because I wasn’t good at writing them, but because I wasn’t writing about anything I wanted.



Like the quote I began with, I’ve found quite a bit that I love doing. However, it doesn’t mean that it’s not work.



In the midst of an opiate epidemic that communities do not understand, it’s increasingly more difficult to connect and reach for humanity. Some work nights, I cry the entire drive home for the families who have been affected.



Some nights, after a soccer game, it takes me forty minutes to will myself out of my car because my body is just so exhausted. Planning a practice, or watching the team do the exact same thing you had taught them not to do the day before, is draining and depleting.



Even writing is a struggle sometimes because the story isn’t heading where you want it to.



Work isn’t always going to be easy.



Just because you love it, doesn’t mean that love has to last every day. It’s okay to come in waves, it’s okay for stretches to loathe getting out of bed, getting dressed in work clothes, and getting to the job sometimes. It’s also completely okay for your passions to shift, for you to completely change careers to try something else. It is your life to lead.



The 1994 Dash Poem by Linda Ellis is something that sticks out to me.


I read it in my “Death and Dying” course in college. Ms. Ellis wrote the poem as a eulogy, recognizing that, at a funeral, the “dash” time is remembered by those who loved the deceased. The poem highlights that is it not in the awards, accomplishments or level of wealth that matters, rather in their love and relationships. It reflects on ways to enhance the time in “the dash,” such as slowing down, having more patience and being grateful.


At this time in my life, I can certainly say my dash is both interesting and passion-filled—with all the incumbent stresses that come with passion.


Make your dash interesting. Make it something you’re proud of and make it filled with a life of passion. 


How do you live your dash?  Let’s ELM!



Bridget Marley is a graduate of East Stroudsburg University’s Public Health Department. She spends her time educating adults and youth on public health initiatives. She is an avid coffee drinker, a new lifestyle writer for She’s It, has an animal obsession, and is just trying to find her niche in this world.