Designing Your Life – Set those goals!


I love lists! I make them constantly; everything from groceries to tasks I want to accomplish on a given day, and all the way to life tasks. I feel accomplished when I check something off one of my lists. I also hate leaving things on my list. It happens, but it really bugs me to leave things undone. But what is it I’m really doing? Technically, I’m goal setting. It may be on a small scale, such as my grocery list or To Do list. Or it may be on a larger scale, such as career goals, health goals and monetary goals. Basically, I’m attempting to design my life.


For me, making lists, setting goals is such a necessity that my well-being depends on it. I feel very disorganized and frankly, a bit off kilter when I don’t have a good sense of the direction I am taking.


What do I do when I’m feeling this way?


Over the years, I’ve found that when I follow the steps below, my whole body and mind feels good when I’ve taken the time to know what are my next goals in life.  I hope they help you as well.


Take a Load Off


Before you can achieve any goal, you have to know what they are. So, grab a piece of paper and a pen, then find a quiet area and figure it out. Write down what your dream life may look like. Don’t edit or censure your writing. You can do that later. Instead, dream big! Jot down all the things you’ve thought about over the years. This will help you determine where to go next.


Finetune Your List


Goals are the end game. Or as the NCJA Center for Justice Planning puts it, goals are outcome statements. They are going to guide strategy so that you can achieve them.  This sounds very business oriented, and it is, but it can also be applied to your life in general. You need to finetune your dream writing into a list of goals. Then you can make a plan to achieve them. Prioritize this list, as well, otherwise it may seem overwhelming. You may find that your goals overlap, and you can work towards more than one at a time.


Be S.M.A.R.T.


Jim Rohn, was an entrepreneur, author and speaker. He recommended that each goal you have be S.M.A.R.T.: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time. You should have already made a list of specific goals. Now look at them even further. Is each goal measurable? Can it be achieved through action and steps so you can monitor progress? Is your goal attainable? And is it realistic? These two, I think, kind of go hand in hand. I always dreamt of being a singer, however I can’t sing a note. Only my dogs appreciate it. . .sometimes. So, this would be an unrealistic and unattainable dream. However, building my home-based business is both. I can take steps to make it happen. The time factor can be a hard one. You can set an ideal timeline for each goal, but it may have to be slightly flexible. I’d love to build my business quickly, but that is not necessarily the best plan. So, this goal may need to be slightly flexible.


However, write down a time frame so you have something to aim for.


Make a Plan


Now you need to get down to business. You’ve written and evaluated your goals. The next step is to make a plan for each goal so you can achieve it. Let’s continue with my home-based business plan. First, I need to outline what my business would look like. What are the components? How do my husband and I do this together? What are each of our responsibilities? Once I define these aspects, I can make a plan of small, measurable steps to help me accomplish each goal.


These are logical steps to take to achieve goals. Now sit down, and try to plan for each of your goals. And remember, the internet is a great tool. Go online and look for tips that you may be able to implement to achieve your goals.


Looking Ahead


I am in the process of creating my plan, and the steps we need to take to accomplish it. And it’s not easy to sit down and evaluate my strengths and weaknesses so that I can achieve this dream. Since some of this plan involves my husband we’ve talked about it in depth. Carl has achieved a high level of success in his field, and many people thought he’d never do it! He said something interesting that day. He said that when he sets a goal, he does everything he can to achieve it, even if it seems somewhat selfish.


He told me I need to be a little more selfish in achieving my goals.


That I need to put myself first, instead of him and his goals, because that’s what I do. I’ve helped him achieve some of his dreams, now he wants the same for me. I’m pretty lucky, I think.


What do you do to accomplish your dreams and goals? Does it make you feel good to check things off your list? I’d love to hear about them, and what you do daily to design your life.



Bethany Kochan started her fitness career at a local women’s fitness center at 19 years of age. This part-time job lead to a career that over 20 years later, she still loves. Bethany earned her B.S. in Exercise Science from Southern Illinois University Carbondale at the same time becoming certified as a group exercise instructor. After college, she pursued NSCA-CPT and CSCS, group cycling, mat Pilates and YogaFit certifications. In 2009, she and her husband made a big move across the country to pursue his dream job in the field of strength and conditioning. At this point, Bethany began writing and training online to be both with her husband and the fitness industry. Today, the Kochans split their time between AZ and CA, pursuing their passions and enjoying life together with their two rescue Weimaraners.