What happens after the honeymoon phase?
Have you ever become bored with the way things are? Your job, social life, friendships, or even your love life? It can be incredibly easy to get caught up in the excitement and “honeymoon stage” of things. What you have to remember, though, is that things won’t always won’t always feel this way, nor are they meant to. Your new job won’t always be as fun, and your relationship won’t be constant butterflies.
Life is a series of ups, downs, and in-betweens.
A LOT of in-betweens. But, just because things are less entertaining doesn’t mean something is wrong. Sometimes that’s just how things happen. I know from personal experience that when things become almost robotic and you have to do the same things every single day, it can get boring. And I also know many people (especially millennials) who hate the fact that things aren’t exciting.
Instead of thinking of it negatively, think of it like this: If you weren’t being consistent with your job, you you wouldn’t have gotten a pay raise. If you weren’t sticking to your new diet and exercise routine, you wouldn’t have lost that weight. Success takes time to show.
Be patient, and grateful for the progress you’ve made. Every small step you take (even if it seems like the same step three hundred times) is going to help you get to where you want to go.
Likewise, know that you don’t have to push yourself constantly to see results. This is something I’m still working on. I got caught up in the idea of being the best version of me now, and didn’t grasp that it wasn’t going to happen overnight, no matter how hard I pushed.
You can still make progress while taking things at the pace they are meant to go. Things take time to manifest.
“The caterpillar can’t become a butterfly without eating 1,000 leaves,” is a quote that I adopted from this concept. Everything on this planet takes time to form. Be patient.
Something else I was guilty of is letting distractions prohibit me from getting work done, which made me feel like I wasn’t getting anything accomplished. So maybe it’s not that you don’t like the work, maybe you’re just not giving it your all! Life is meant to be enjoyed, but you must learn the balance between work and play. Things will go smoother once this is mastered, and the flow won’t be so stressful.
Work first, and play later. That’s what our parents tell us, right? And they couldn’t be more accurate. You have to be willing to put in the effort to keep things going, to see the things you will create.
There are going to be moments in life that are uncomfortable, or that you have no say in changing. But even if there are some things you can’t change, there are some things you can do to spice things up, spark some inspiration, and make things a little more enjoyable.
Change location. If you work from home like me, a change of scenery will do you good. Opt for sitting outside, near a window, or in a quiet place like a library. If you’re having issues with a friend or partner, suggest going for a walk or watching a movie in bed. Switch things up!
Start a conversation in your relationship if things feel stale. Get deep and real with your partner. Reach out to your co-workers if you’re feeling stuck, or even if you just need to take a short break and need someone to talk to.
Reorganize your space. This is something I like to do. It really helps to give the feel that 1) you accomplished a creative task, and 2) you now have a clean, workable space. Bring in some others to help you, make it a cleaning party!
The flow of life can change from a trickle to a pour. And sometimes it’s stuck in that in-between stream. But that’s perfectly okay! It’s not about the situation, it’s about how you react to it.
What makes you feel stuck? Everyone is different, and I’d love to know what holds you back, and the things you’ve done to overcome it.