How Do You Manage?
It feels like a snake is tightening around my lungs. Like I’m drowning but not actually in water. It’s like everything around me is in slow motion, but my mind is going a mile a minute. Does this sensation sound familiar?
Anxiety. Who else knows the struggle here? Most of us do, probably. In fact, more than three million cases of anxiety are confirmed each year, and that’s only those who have gotten medical attention. Imagine how many more of us deal with it on a daily basis, but haven’t told anyone about it. That’s a lot of people.
My family members struggle with it, and most of the people that I’m friends with, was friends in school with, or the people I work with have it.
Anxiety has different forms and faces, with different levels of severity. For me, my anxiety comes with over thinking, or when I’m presented with too much stimuli or choices to make. Trying to decide what I want at Subway? Such a struggle! I’ve dealt with it my whole life and it is something I have learned to accept as part of myself. It can be hard to cope with, but I am always trying to improve and get better!
When I was in high school my anxiety was worse. My grades started slipping and I spent more time socializing and making friends than doing work because I was too scatterbrained and overwhelmed to even care.
I remember one day, when I was in math class. The teacher had given us a midterm assignment that was probably about 30 pages full of math we had to do with a calculator. My anxiety did not like that one bit and I may or may not have stared into space for a little to try and calm myself down. In the end, it wasn’t so bad.
Over time I started to find ways of coping with it though, and eventually it got a lot better and more manageable. I was able to complete assignments and handle different tasks without feeling like I was constantly trying to play catch up.
When I feel anxious, the best thing for me to do is to just leave the situation. If I feel like I can’t make a decision, or if the decision will be altered by how I’m feeling, I step back and allow myself to relax again before coming back and making a choice.
Your well-being is super important so if you’re feeling like the things you’re doing or decisions your making because of your anxiety are doing more harm than good, it’s perfectly okay to not make a decision in that moment. I used to feel a ton of guilt when I would need to take a break. It felt like I was weak or that I didn’t care enough. But that’s not true. Allowing yourself to relax will do wonders for you, trust me.
I still struggle with anxiety (I’m looking at you, unpacked clothing) and some days are worse than others. But it’s all about learning to accept that this is the way you work, and that is perfectly okay.
You just have to find little ways to make things easier and more simple for yourself. You deserve happiness!
Do you struggle with anxiety? When does it come up? What are your go-to ways to deal with it? Let’s start a conversation!