Self-Love is the relationship you have with yourself!
It’s the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.” ― Brené Brown
There are many expectations for women these days. Everyone expects women to do it all: cook, clean, take care of the family, work, etc., and while there is nothing wrong with women doing everything (because heck, women KNOW they can do it all!), there is still this cookie-cutter image of perfection still manifesting itself from time to time based on those ancient traditions where women were slaves or simply “less than”. However, in this day and age, our goal as women is to continue to break down those relationship templates that no longer suit us.
No matter what career you may have, how many partners you have been with, or what kinds of friends you choose to hang out with, they all center around the idea of a relationship. We have to be able to relate to one another in order to grow and prosper in this world in some aspect or another. So, what exactly is a relationship?
A relationship is defined as “the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected”.
Connection seems to be the root of it all. As humans, we yearn for connections; to be able to share our thoughts and engage in conversations and enjoy moments of togetherness. Meaningful connections are the ultimate goals for most of us, connections that support pure contentment. But how can we have great connections if we are not truly connected to ourselves first?
We know that relationships get the better of us if we are not focused on what we desire as an outcome. For instance, have you ever been taken advantage for your kindness whether in a friendship or relationship? During a spat with your loved one, are you always made to blame or used as a target for something that you didn’t even do? Or perhaps at work, did you do all that overtime projects without getting rightly acknowledged for it?
Here is where women have to gain back their power through self-awareness, i.e. self-love.
Simply put, Self-love is the foundation for your overall well-being. How you take care of yourself from the inside out on a daily basis says a lot about how much you love yourself, and that additionally lets people know how they can treat you outwardly. It’s all about respect. Self-love is YOU being able to experience your truth and coming to your inner power without needing validation from anyone or anything. You have the full capability to rise and thrive through your self-loving actions.
I know it’s hard to filter out all the negativity around us especially when you, your achievements, your desires, or your dreams are not affirmed. Your truth of your unique and beautiful journey is what matters. That is pure inner strength and the epitome of self-love. Have you ever thought to let go of all of the concepts and labels people have placed on you from their limited views? Gaining an awareness of your ability to honestly love yourself and be secure in that knowing is your guide to external success.
Quick and effective daily self-love exercises for all Women!
Keep a gratitude journal
A gratitude attitude makes for a happier and healthier mindset. If you are grateful for your experiences on a day-to-day basis you will gain that much more enjoyment out of life. To help you stay on track with the grateful attitude, simply use a notebook of your choice to write 3-5 daily sentences (either every morning or before bed at night) that state what you are grateful for in that very moment. Setting your intentions will create a self-loving attitude towards yourself and others around you.
Have some “ME” time
Self-love means loving yourself fully. Release the need to be codependent and get independent. How do you want to spend time on your own? Do you love yoga, or going on a long bike ride, or visiting museums? Let this “Me” time be a time for being productive and taking care of your mind, body, and spirit.
The Mirror Exercise
To show yourself you really are able to unconditionally love YOU, here is what you can do. Look at yourself in the mirror first thing in morning when you wake up and say “I am beautiful”. “I love myself just as I am”. “I accept all that I feel.” This can be tough because, we want to look perfect all the time. But don’t be fooled. That is simply the illusion that society placed on us in order for us to fit into the mold of looking a certain way which condescendingly defines beauty. But, you right now, right here in this present moment, are truly perfect just as you are.
Find even 5 minutes a day to express yourself! Do you like to write, sing, dance, take an art class, or talk to a friend to let out steam? Let it out, all your feelings and emotions, purely, without judgment. Finding authenticity within your full expression without needing any attachment to the outcome will strengthen and empower you. Do not let social pressures get to you: Stay centered and follow that inner light of yourself.
Remember ladies, there is no other just like YOU. You are beautiful, worthy, exceptional, and powerful. Once you fully grasp this in your current state of reality you will begin to unravel the infinite wisdom and creative energy that lies within all of you to be exposed, explored, experienced, and enjoyed fully with every relationship you hold, especially the one with yourself. Let me hear about your journey to self-love!