Showing Some Self-Love


February is the month of love. Our lives become plagued with Cupid, cardboard cut-out hearts and those boxed Valentine’s Day cards that children purchase to give out at school.


It’s the month to show everyone that you love them and highlight those special reasons why. I typically never have a problem sharing the reasons why I love the people in my life. I’m certainly not into Valentine’s Day because I think your love should be shown always and not just on one specific day.


So, I’ve been wondering why showing myself the same love is such a problem for me.


A resolution I had made for 2018 was to take one day a month to myself. If I’m being honest, until yesterday, I hadn’t yet done so.


I really have a problem with staying so busy that I don’t know how to relax (in general), if the time comes.


It’s constantly something I have to work at. Whether it’s having a cup of coffee by myself, catching up on the television shows I watch, or just spending time with people I care for, all of it takes time for me to plan.


My aunt asks me to watch her house and dogs while she goes away quite a bit. I usually take the time while I’m at her house to just do nothing but hang out with two great dogs, watch lots of television, read books and write (currently sitting on her couch writing this article).


I’m still living at home. So, getting the house to myself doesn’t happen quite a bit. I am always more than willing to dog sit for my aunt and uncle because I get to be alone for a while.


I think it’s important to know what you require for your own self-care. I like to become a hermit for a few days and then I’m okay for a few months. I like to work and I’m not sure who I am or who I would be without working. My job is my life, which I guess is kind of sad for some, but sometimes people work their entire lives to find what they love and I’ve found that.


I so desperately want to be the Instagram self-care guru, but I don’t know where to start.


I’ve tried bath bombs with a book—I was bored in cold, colored water after five minutes. I decided they just weren’t for me. So, I instead write for She’s It, I listen to music and sing at the top of my lungs, I watch movies and I feed off energy from other people.


It’s hard for me to remind myself of the importance of taking care of myself. Sometimes, it takes some friends checking up on me making sure I’m okay and luckily, I have some amazing people that do that for me.


Recognizing my weak points only makes me stronger, and finding those who are strong in my weaker points to surround and support me makes my weaknesses much less. Setting up a specific time for your self-care daily, weekly or monthly is an important step. Also, recognizing how much self-care you need is a crucial step. I have a friend that needs daily self-care, but I’m okay lasting quite a few months in between.


So, even though I’m not the best self-care guru, I think I’m doing okay and I challenge you to find what works for you and what doesn’t.

Just as a reminder, you’re not able to pour from an empty glass. So, make sure yours is full first before giving to others!



Bridget Marley is a graduate of East Stroudsburg University’s Public Health Department. She spends her time educating adults and youth on public health initiatives. She is an avid coffee drinker, a new lifestyle writer for She’s It, has an animal obsession, and is just trying to find her niche in this world.