Kindness Still Counts


Did you know October is Positive Attitude Month? Let the burst of colorful leaves be a metaphor for positivity and light. Think of yourself as the first colorful leaves making way for the others. This is where I decided to set goals for good and kind acts.


Women all know we first need to take care of our minds and bodies to be able to tend to others. We also know what gifts there are with shedding light on others.


Therefore, I have set a few kindness goals for which I can deliver now. We can be kind in our own special way, with our own voice and our own angle to shed light on others. Setting goals is one thing, delivering is another.


I will start where I work, which an after-school program where students, K-3 have already spent a very long day. They come to school earlier for “before” care, spend all day in the classroom and then come to afterschool care. I have two goals: 1. Safety and 2. Kindness.


Safety goes without saying. Case in point was yesterday when I knocked on the door to get in, and no one came. Finally, a first-grade boy opened the door. The leader promptly yelled at him, saying the only people who can open the door are teachers.


I saw him crouched over at the table, crying and I reassured him. As for safety, I explained that neither he nor I knew about this safety rule. However, I thanked him for being kind and trying to do the right thing. That counts!


I know money is a subject we Americans are private about. How we spend our money is our business. We are frequently approached with requests for monetary contributions, especially during the winter holidays.


It dawned on me that I could put my money where my mouth is and support a charity on a basis that I set.


Recently, I sent an amount that made sense to me to a politician whom I think will make a difference. This is one option for contributing to a cause. You decide the recipient and the amount. Every supportive step helps. I’ll call it “go fund them” contributions. Another tangible way to make my dent in something important is my start in the South Jersey food bank, as food is survival. Training starts soon and I will try to be a good student!


Halloween is coming up. I used to think it was an imposition—bah humbug, or “boo” humbug. This time, I’ll greet the children with my best smile. Maybe I’ll wear the Cruella Deville costume I confess I proudly put together last year. I got the wig, the long gloves, the fur and the dalmatian stuffed puppy. I’ll even be the puppy and say, “Don’t let her eat me!”


Why not be silly and funny with the children? That is what I do best.


It is easy to take for granted those who are “there” for us. The other day I was feeling a little yucky and wishing my sister would visit me. Low and behold, a knock on the door came and there she was with a fresh cantaloupe. She went into the kitchen, diligently cut it up and poured two glasses of ice water. The sweetness of the cantaloupe was a metaphor for my sister’s sweetness and great timing. They say don’t sweat the small stuff. This is par for the course for her and small in her opinion. It makes a real difference to me.


Lastly, my advice which I am taking myself is to be mindfully kind. Meaning don’t be frugal with kind words and take some steps to support what (and who) you care about.  


Notice all the good in fellow humans and share it. It is never too late and you know it all comes back to you. Find the light and spread the light. It’s Positive Attitude Month, so just go for it!



Beth grew up in Camden, New Jersey and majored in Education and History at Rutgers University and later obtained a Masters in Family Therapy at Drexel University. She’s married to her husband of 41 years with two young adult children—a daughter and son—who both work in NYC. She loves movies, Netflix, books, history, linguistics and exploring the human condition. From her extensive background, she’s accumulated many stories and lessons and looks forward to shaping the conversation.