I am tired because I have not been sleeping well. It hurts when I exercise because my muscles fatigue. I can’t breathe when I work out and my heart is racing and it makes me want to stop completely. I just don’t want to do it because exercising is just not my thing. I can’t stand when my body gets sweaty. I feel like everyone is watching me when I work out and this makes me feel so uncomfortable. 


These are just a few of the countless excuses I hear from the unmotivated. As a trainer, it my goal to reframe their mindset and to teach my clients what they are capable of. We all need to believe!


With well over a decade of experience as a personal trainer and as a mother of 4, I have had my share of people needing that extra push. Sometimes it is with a client and other times it is in my own household. In many cases, it is very tough to push certain people.


We all have different personalities. I have learned that everyone has their own story. There is a reason they are just not into exercising.  It is not a one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to training. 


The same goes for motivating a child. Some children need more positive before reframing thoughts whereas other children are straight to the facts. Everyone has a different motivation that helps them get up and get going. I have been successful in channeling this. Let me share with you how you can do just the same. Sometimes it takes digging deep and transforming thinking.


Find the Reason


Everyone has a different reason they get up and exercise. For some it may be to get healthy, others to look better, or even to have more energy. I choose all the above. I feel better, stay slim and have plenty of energy to keep up with work and my children. For some people, there may be no reason because they have yet to be motivated. So, find out the why or give yourself a reason.


Establish a Routine


The human body feeds off a schedule. We do best when we are in a routine. We feel better this way and we accomplish more. The people that are most successful manage their time and can to stick to their routine.


So, whether you’re doing this for yourself or someone else, establish a routine  and stick with it. I send my clients weekly workouts and simply request they message me when they accomplish their workouts. Accountability is one of the keys to success!


Be a Superhero


A great way to motivate the unmotivated is to share your superhero tricks. One of the best tricks to getting your workout in is to put your workout outfit on under whatever you’re wearing. It is like a super power! This is a regular trick that I utilize. Today I ran errands in long pants and a sleeveless top, under my pants and top with a sports bra and shorts. As soon as I had a free moment, I layered down and threw my sneakers on to head off for a run. There is little thought involved, it’s more about just getting it done. The last thing you would want to do is take off your under layer knowing you did not come through. Be a super hero today and get motivated by using this super power!


Keep a Journal


Since a large part of becoming motivated involves emotion, write down your thoughts in a journal. Use this to purge stress and emotion.


Be sure to funnel this into a workout regularly. I have my clients write down motivation quotes to read throughout the day or when they’re feeling down. This can be your inner mantra during a workout to set the stage for fitness success.


Join a Group


Exercising in numbers quantifies motivation. It is much easier to push yourself when you are surrounded with fitness-minded people. Even the most non-motivated individual will feel fuel when with a group. It can bring a side of you that you did even know you had.


Consider joining a running club, a gym or even registering for a local race. You may meet a whole new set of fit friends in the process. Take in the positive energy and use this to fuel your motivation! 




As a personal trainer, I often feel like a therapist to my clients. They share with me what is stressing them out and holding them back. For weight loss clients, I discover what has caused them to gain weight and give up.


A large part of success is allowing yourself to be transparent. I walk down a journey of transformation with them and help them to go on. Motivating the unmotivated is about opening your heart and mind. 


So, get motivated and discover your inner greatness. And pay it forward by motivating those around you!



Tara Zimliki is a nationally recognized weight loss expert, personal trainer, health coach, health writer and founder of Tara’s Bootcamp, the Premiere Bootcamp of New Jersey. Tara also runs her own blog, funfitmama.com