Making Time for Family
In the simple yet complex world that we have created in our realities, the idea of unity sometimes falls on the short end of the stick. To create deepening bonds within your family dynamic, consider the following effective tools:
The Goal is Always Collective Joy
Once gatherings are the focus, the fun times can commence. In my experience, I have grown up with a unity consciousness, as my parents informally instilled this harmonious template within me. All our distinct families of different generations generally include an array of different languages and ways of thinking, eating and bonding.
However, if we can connect beyond the outside differences, we will gain a divine spark of unity through each interaction. It is not about what you do but that you do it together, from a place of respect and love.
In my experience, a family game or movie night outweighs a fancy dinner. Every family dynamic is different though, so no judgment is necessary. Some families enjoy fancy restaurants while others enjoy a more relaxed vibe. The point is to find something suitable for the majority where unity can peacefully be achieved.
“However, sewn intrinsically both in the laws of man and the laws of God, another concept is, I believe, key to what makes a family. It is the concept of togetherness, of being together, where the metrics of togetherness are both spatial and temporal.” – Dana A Costache for ThriveGlobal
Each Family Member Carries a Key to Your Soul
This might be deep, but it is the genuine truth. Why else would so many family get-togethers seem to create spiraling emotions of opposing energies?
My friend Amelia lives in London while her family lives in Chicago. She recalls whenever they meet there is “tension” being played out and she feels it as repressed emotions. “I am aware of the resistance and instead of making my family feel guilty, I find it in myself to discover what I am not seeing that makes me feel disconnected,” she said.
These aspects of our “shadow selves” are brought to the surface for us to heal any insecurities or childhood traumas that keep us looping in karmic situations.
Connecting via Phone & Internet
For many, family does not necessarily mean close in distance. This is where virtual connection can be obtained, including phone calls and/or video chats. My friend Christopher, a college student who lives in New York and has grandparents that reside in Hawaii, says, “I make it a priority to call up my grandparents 3 times a week during my lunch breaks. It has created a beautiful bond where we connect about our days and it fulfills my heart for sure.”
Angelica, a mom of 4, says, “My mother and father-in-law live in North Carolina and we live in New Jersey, so every week my kids FaceTime with them and it brings such a smile to all our faces. It really does not take much to connect with family of different generations, simply a bit of dedication and communication.”
Reconnect to Yourself
It is said that our personalities and senses of humor can easily be stemmed back to our family generations, so revel in the parts of you that have been passed down from older generations!
In Asia McLain’s article for BuzzFeed, she states, “Where you got your one-of-a-kind sense of humor, where you got your incredible intelligence and charm, and the amazing line of women responsible for making you everything you are,” as she’s referring to the different generations of family that beautifully contribute to our being in one way or another.
In Katie Mather’s article for EliteDaily, she suggests, “Learn about your ancestry. Connecting with your grandparents gives you a chance to pursue knowledge about your family history. What kind of person was your great aunt? What was daily life like in your family’s country?”
At the end of the day, the purpose of connecting with family of different generations has more to do with healing the inner self than anything else. It is a bonding that awakens aspects of our soul that needs to be acknowledged and understood.
In Nakeshia’s article for ThriveGlobal, she states, “It was then I saw how my great grandmother Mildred gave us all one piece of the puzzle; one recipe. Leaving a trail of bread crumbs to find our way back home if we ever got lost. She did her part to bring together a table that sat generations. This revelation was added to the chest of reasons I love the Holiday Season.”
Let us all continue to unite with love through every moment and memory shared with our unique families of different generations.